This is a continuation of the series of the Lightwood family that is talking about family dysfunction, this is the second post focusing on Izzy Lightwood and her behavior resulting from her relationships with her parents and later her brothers.
We see in this clip that their mother favors political alliance's over the family's happiness, and order over comfort. Their mother needs a quick political alliance to restore their influence at the Clave, this is the organization that oversees the Shadow Hunters internationally. It is based in Alicante the Shadow Hunter's spiritual homeland. That is glamour to Mundane's much like most of the Shadow World.
This leads to her seeking out relationships that don't have any real attachment to them before she meets Raphaelle and later Simon. Her secure attachment isn't to her Mother and Father it is to Alec and we see that he is the Caregiver of the siblings.
Izzy is anxious in her attachment style, she is attached to her dad, more than her mother as her mother is quite critical of her. This could be due to the socio-cultural environment of the Shadow World for Izzy's politically heavy family. Beyond their roles as a family, they have roles in the Shadow world and we see that Alec has heavier consequences for their parents' decisions in the fact that they are forcing him into what is essentially an arranged marriage.
She needs to fight for her own needs and in this, she also starts to fight for Alec's needs as well. daughters fight over their denied needs what needs is Izzy denied? This is unconditional acceptance, guidance, and the chance to be independent of the family. This sets her up for all of the risk factors for addiction.
Uncovering the root cause of mother-daughter conflict - Counseling Today Insecure Attachment Style: Behaviors, Causes & How To Heal | mindbodygreen In contrast we see that Alec's attachment style, is fearful and avoidant. We see this play out in his relationship with Magnus and how he overprotects Izzy. Izzy was given a substance called Yin Fen after being possessed to go on a mission to the Iron citadel to meet her hero t he Iron sisters (The equivalent of a holy order of nuns). She isn't warned that it is addictive and through the head of the institute in season two ( they seem to go through a period of very unstable leadership). This leads her to seek out the substance and then through information given to her by Magnus she goes straight to the source. As Yin Fen is a drug that is made through vampire venom. ( it could be seen as a metaphor for a heron or opioid addiction) So she goes to Raphael to essentially get her to fix it as she isn't able to seek it out through legal means.
We see this in reality as many people will see out places and people that aren't great for their mental health and they then spiral down due to having these people in there lives. This leads to having a relationship with Raphael as he saves her from some of the vampires that aren't a part of his clan. This leads them into a codependent relationship, we see Raphael talk to her about getting clean however this can take several attempts and we see her find a root that helps her which could be seen as the root she is taking could be considered a methadone replacement.
We see Alec support Izzy in her attempts to "dry out, yet later we see that Alec can't control himself when he finds out that she went to Raphael to get her to fix and we see him attack Raphael Shadowhunters 2x09 - Alec Fights Raphael After Finding Out About The Yin Fen - YouTube Background Reading for this post. Traumatic bonding - Wikipedia Substance abuse - Wikipedia Chronic condition - Wikipedia Harm reduction - Wikipedia Methadone - Wikipedia Alcoholics Anonymous (aa.org.au)
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( originally published on blogger during 2022)
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